Cohabitation

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Introduction
In recent years, there is an increasing rate of cohabitation in the society. Cohabitation by definition is two unmarried people living together. In moral values, this does not seem an appropriate situation because there is no marriage between the couples. However, cohabitation is a chance and requirement to establish strong bonds at the relationship. I became interested in the topic because of my own situation. I am a Christian, so according to the Bible, it is considered a sin to live together outside of marriage. However, I stand in grace. As a grace believer, I know that if I was going to live under law, breaking one “rule” means you break them all. What a frightening thought considering everyone falls short in some area or another. My thought on the subject is that I have seen both sides of the story, and having married young and watching the marriage fall apart, I am very content just living with my significant other. Marriage is a commitment, and before God we have said our vows to each other, but according to man we have not. I feel as though we are married, but I also do not feel as though signing legal documents will change anything accept gain the approval of the world. It is not my intentions to live in sin, but I also do not feel as though it is necessary to sign a bunch of papers just to gain the approval of man. I suppose I feel so strongly because I have seen how devastating marriage can be, and although any relationship can end, the repercussions of divorce are enough to cripple a person for years after. On the other hand, cohabitation ensures that you will be able to truly see that person for who they are, and in the end either continue walking through life with them, or part ways without having the burdens associated with divorce. All in all, I firmly believe it is a good idea to live with a person in order to really understand who…...

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