Coping with Grief at Different Ages

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Coping With Grief at Different Ages
Gadear S. Alatki
PSYC 2314: Lifespan Psychology MW 1-3
Fall 2010
There are many unexplained mysteries when it comes to humans. Acting and thinking in ways that make no sense is also a known fact, and when in the topic of psychology, proof can be given from every stage of the developing person up to the point of death. When a person dies, those who had loved the deceased usually experience grief and mourning, though the impact of death has different effects for different people. Rosario states that “grief transforms” in which is referring to the many shapes it comes in (2004). Grief can be experienced physically, emotionally, socially, or mentally depending on the individual. Sleeplessness, appetite changes, physical problems, or possible illness are examples of physical reactions. Emotional reactions can include anger, guilt, anxiety, sadness, and utter despair. Those impacted socially experience feelings of responsibility for other family members, having to communicate with family or friends, feelings of being isolated, or going back to work. These are few of the many forms it takes for all of us, but it is not until researching the subject that I found what really affects grieving. I chose this topic in order to find this solution due to a particular event in my life. That day was the death of my beloved uncle. It happened one evening in the summer of 2009. An urgent call came through from one of our relatives from overseas. The news was of our uncle’s passing. My uncle, whom I had loved dearly and always looked forward to seeing every summer, was gone. I looked at my crying mother and then turned to see my weeping younger sister. Both were crying, but I was not. I had been informed that a member of my family had passed away, yet I did not cry. Questions began buzzing in my head. “Is there something wrong with me? Why…...

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