Faith Based Grief Counseling

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Faith based Grief Counseling

Resource- When Trouble Comes by: Jim Berg
TRUTH #1 * The greatest danger is always the flesh=try to make life work without God. * Though other people may have created the wound,we are responsible how we react to it.
* The Gospel is always the answer! apply it to our suffering * The only lasting and satisfying answer to life’s problems = increase your intimacy with God! * A life focused on Christ will not crumble amidst crisis , because there is complete trust in God. The plan is not easy to do because our self-centered ways cry out for relief in our terms. * “My strength is made perfect in weakness” * Look at “God’s agenda”, when a crisis hits, taking on his perspective.
* God’s glory is always the goal. * In the “fiery furnaces” of our lives need to (1) always respond in a way that shows God is more important than anything else, (2) and respond in a way that if someone is watching , they could see God’s goodness in you . Therefore- we are glorifying God, because we are esteeming Him of highest value. Example—(Daniel 3:24-25) : These men risk there lives for God despite the consequences of being through into fire,which in the end God saves them. * “ If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. For whosoever will lose his life for my sake,the same shall save it (Luke 9 :23-24). * Our goal must be to use every circumstance to show in some way that God is first. The result will be lasting joy and peace no matter how difficult the…...

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