Grief and Loss

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Grief, Loss and Finding Meaning and Purpose
Darren Pedro
Grand Canyon University
Psychology for Everyday Life
Amanda Laster-Loftus
May 21, 2014

Grief, Loss and Finding Meaning and Purpose
While dealing with death is never an easy process, knowing how to handle the grieving process could prove to be beneficial to you and those around you. How we deal with our loss will play our in various emotions. In this paper we will take a look at the emotion a person goes through when dealing with death, how a person deals with death in their own way, and finding the meaning and purpose of dealing with grief.
Death is never an easy subject to approach. When a person loses a loved one, various emotions come into factor. These emotions trigger feelings which otherwise would not be compromised under normal circumstances. However, the various emotions that a person deals with assist them in the mourning process.
There are different stages of emotions a person deals with after having lost a loved one. It is perfectly normal to have experience these emotions and should go through each stage of these emotions. It is believed the common stages of coping with death are as follow: shock and disbelief, sadness, guilt, anger, fear and physical symptoms (Smith & Segal, 2014, p. 1). According to the article done by M. Smith and J. Segal; these emotions are onset early stages in the grieving process. They also stated it might feel like you are going crazy or in a bad dream. They went on to state you might even question your religion and beliefs. Just how does our emotion assist us when going through a death of a love one?
The feelings we as humans experience when learning of the passing of someone dear to us comes in various stages. The first stage of grieving would be shock and disbelief. Upon learning of…...

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