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Lament for a Son: Stages of Grieving

When a family loses one of them, the issue presents a period of difficulty for every person especially when they lose the hope that they will ever meet again. Grief presents various challenges to the individual that loses a person and can lead them to difficult situations that include depression (Brown, 2010). Different circumstances result in the death of the loved ones, and their variations also present differing ways that their family and friends will react to the issues. Nicholas Wolterstorff reflects on the periods and events that ensued in his life after the loss of his son Eric in the book Lament for a Son. The narrative is an important reflection of the steps that a person undergoes as a part of the grief process and their path to acceptance. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross reflects on the five stages of grief that people experience, and it is essential to determine how they appear in Nicholas Wolterstorff’s text.
Wolterstorff publishes this book to honor the death of his son Eric that occurred during a mountain climbing expedition. The first parts of the book provide a connection with the first stage of grief that is denial. The author narrates on how he had to travel across the ocean to see and collect the body of his Son in disbelief of the event (Wolterstorff, 1987). The author shows his denial when explaining how he touched his son's body in doubt if it was Eric himself or someone else. That reflects the common characteristics of individuals in the denial stage where they even challenge the most basic forms of diagnosing the situation as untrue (Kubler-Ross, 2011). Wolterstorff holds on to the hope that the whole issue is a lie or a dream and that the family will snap out of it and resume their life with his son. Wolterstorff goes through a difficult period in adjusting to the fact that his son is gone, and they cannot meet…...

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