Stages of Grief Lament for a Son

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Stages of Grief
Delores Clayton
Grand Canyon University
Religious in Health Care
HLT-310V
Gary Shields
August 22, 2015

In this essay I will be completing my report from the book “Lament for a Son” not only written but also lived by Nicholas WolterstorffIn. In this book the author/character talks about his painful recollection and how his life has changed since his son that was 25 year old has pass away from a climbing accident in Austria. While reading the book I was able to transcribe how the author exhibited the different stages of grief which he is was experiencing. Toward the end of the book and where author was able to find peace through the faith he had in God. Nicholas the author account of the occurrence and grief-stricken is upright and stunningly written. I feel that he had written the book true character and stories to motivate others who is experiencing loss. There is five stages of grief that is expressed in telling his life story, they signify how the stages help lead the author to find joy after his loss. The author was able to explain the allusion and connivance of death in light of the Christian description and how the hope of the reappearance/ return to life, played a role in consoling Wolterstorff. This story started off with the author receiving a phone call, in regards to his son Erick falling to his death. He immediately heads to where his son resided so that he can claim Eric's his sons body, after arriving where his sons body laid the author was advised not to see his son, because it was scrawled and mangled by the accident.

Elizabeth Kubler-Ross proposed that all individuals suffering loss live through diffeent stages of grief while learning to emotional deal with their loss. Kubler-Ross referred to this temporary change as the grieving steps which include, anger, bargaining, depression, denial…...

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