The Five Stages of Grief

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The Three Stages Of Grief Grief is an emotion that we all experience in one point of our lives. It is sparingly, complex and found hard to overcome. There are three stages to the process of grieving. Each consist of denial, anger, and depression. Individuals say that if you get stuck in one stage you are not done yet the process of grieving. In Alice Sebold’s novel “The Lovely Bones,” characters Lindsey, Jack, and Abigail all go through these stages when Susie Salmon is raped and murdered. The first character who goes through the three stages is Lindsey who has a very distinct way of going through the stages. The next character that proceeds throughout the stages is Jack who grieves immensely. Finally Abigail, who distances herself from her family to complete her process of grieving. In this novel each character proves that after someone dies it is crucial to go through the three stages of grief in order to move on with life. To begin, Lindsey is the first character to experience the three stages of grief. Lindsey suffers a lot and correspondingly goes through the three stages of grief; the first stage being denial. When Lindsey returns to her school her principal Mr.Caden brings her into his office and sympathizes for her situation. Lindsey becomes angry and remarks. “ I wasn’t aware I had lost anything” (Sebold 33). This shows that Lindsey is still in denial. She is still not ready to expect the fact that her sister is now gone forever. However she is now on the road to undertake the passing of Susie. Additionally anger is the next stage Lindsey experiences. However she does not portray it in a physical way. Lindsey constantly blames herself for the death of Susie and becomes frustrated that she was not there to do anything to prevent the situation from happening. As Susie looks down from heaven she says, “At times [Lindsey] wished it would have been her”…...

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